Fending off Criticism Recipes

Many people can not stand criticism. Expert advice is: do not get mad when criticized. Wear as a means to grow and achieve success, both in work and personal life. Believe criticism can be utilized in a more advantageous. No one can take criticism with a big smile and eyes sparkle. Although delivered with sweet words or packaged with the term 'constructive', the pop: constructive criticism, criticism remains it was spicy and pungent, piercing our self-defense, cause pain, embarrassment, incompetence, even in cases extreme, also hit the self-esteem. How best face of criticism? Experts prescribe sniper bleak below:

Do not be  anger

1. We usually tend to be emotional and unable to control ourself when facing stressful situations or      

    accused of being unresponsible. Yet according to  Dr. Peter Brill, director of the center Adult      
    Behavior  Study, all forms of  reactions such anger, tears, unwilling to back down, arguing, very
    detrimental.  We will get a negative label, too sensitive, too emotional, easily offense, even more
    wretched again,  whiny like a woman.

2. So how best act  to deal with criticism that is not unexpectedly, without emotional reaction? The
    best  attitude is directly did not react at all. Hold your response until it gets opportunity to run a
    personal      reflection. At that time you enough to say, "I'm not sure how best to respond to the
    problem. I  asked for time to think about it. "

Differing views

Men are usually able to respond to criticism better. According to Dr. Matti Gershenfeld, an American psychologist, believes that he can receive criticism because they are accustomed to receiving the first warning of coaches or fellow school sports teams. They  examine themselves then. Where's fault? What should I do to meet terms?

Instead she felt the criticism was never trained group. Then each time receiving criticism he always felt there was an error on  himself. Women always think everything is aimed at her personal. Most of them are not used to distinguish between critique and criticism of the task itself. They mix up between criticism of an action by warning against them itself. Dr. Pat Wisch director of Philadelphia's Institute of Awareness confirmed hat criticism simply reflects differing views. Superiors or co-workers who are not criticizing auto-correct right or wrong. Maybe they just  embrace different viewpoints .

Error is human

Every people sometimes do stupid, but no deliberately planned the error,  so says Dr. Wisch. The only criticism means that what we have done may  be wasted or disadvantage. Everyone should be aware that the person is  not bad for making mistakes, but only just someone who made a mistake. Once we can accept criticism as such, we will be able to get rid  of the hurt or offended then examine the contents of the criticism. We  can weigh the criticism without being influenced by emotional reactions.

Ask detailed

People often become tense and anxious when receiving criticism, so it does not capture the ultimate goal, namely evaluative measures. An assertiveness trainer, Marilyn Moyer, suggested that we ask 

explanation when receiving criticism. "Many people are afraid of being labeled cynical if it's too meticulous, so do not bother to ask detailed explanation. In fact, it can make often clear explanation issue Marilyn Moyer groups critique of three categories: appropriate, doubt, not exactly. Criticism is quite right we must accept sportsmanship and serve as our starting point changes. If you are criticized for being late submitting reports for example, do not excuses. Please be admitted frankly. "Yes, indeed I am having trouble to finish on time. But I still continue to work on it. "We do not need to strive tongue, sorry above shortcomings and instead we should never grovel itself. If we doubt whether any criticism should be carried out do not hesitate to go to the source, and ask for clarification detail. We can express the doubts to colleagues who could we rely on.

Long-term goals

Criticism is inappropriate and out of place most difficult to overcome. However, there are several ways to avoid the annoyance. One in which is "swallow" it "bitter pill" and then it does not ignored it. That approach would be easier if we focus on long-term goals. Example: the case of Sarah, tolerated the target of criticism with emphasis on Long program, the mean Sarah had to endure three more years in the study at medical school. She's a smart woman and highly motivated. After her husband died, she intends to continue the study abandonment when first married. Though she has 30 years old, and have 2 children now. She often teased fellow students and some professors. They call her "Mommy". When she protested, they added the "mom who refuse to so-called mommi ". Situation is quite disturbing the tranquility of her study. Sarah  forced to ask the advice of a psychologist. She finally realized

that the best attitude is to ignore the banter, and focus her mind on the goal of achieving a medical degree. The target later with itself will put herself  level with the mockerer.

Confidence

Ability to respond to criticism is closely related with confidence. Dr.. Brill suggests that the age group 18-34 years are usually sensitive against critics, because most of them are still in stage of building identity. One way to strengthen self-awareness in the work is to collect the judgment of others about our achievements.  Informative critics about the implementation of the task is always beneficial and is a powerful motivational. No harm in asking information, as long as we do not seem hesitant or too need the approval of others for small things.

Let's face it with a positive attitude assessment. Tell the boss,"This work is very important for me. I want to cultivate in terms of my strength, and I am aware of the weak my points . Did I do  my job well? How can I improve? If your boss only gives vague answers- vague and general, Urge until she cited examples concrete.

Ask the judgment, the ability to control emotions, and respond allegations not true with a cool head, a recipe powerful way to respond to criticism. Nancy, still have not forgotten, just how sick heart when fired as resepsionist almost 7 years ago.

"They say that I'm relieved because it wants someone who can also do the bookkeeping. I will never believe it. I always thought that I was fired because as less representative they want. However, I am too embarrassed to ask my own and finally the become victims. Now, if you face such a situation, I would ask for an explanation so that I can take advantage. "

Judge yourself

Change the criticism to be an experience to learn. Ask for advice how we can handle the situation better. If company where we worked coincidence did not adopt the habit running annual evaluation of 

employee performance, does annual evaluation of the itself.We need the input to be able to function optimally. In the case of Nancy, she realized how much he developed when he learned dared to ask.

Learning brave many questions can not be separated from the sense of security in job. The more we feel sure, the easier it becomes to make use of criticism as a positive motivation to change themselves.

Knowing the strengths and weaknesses is the first step to work more effectively and productively.

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